You have enough to worry about at your job, and getting bullied by your coworkers should never be one of them. It is normal to fear retaliation by a workplace bully. Running away and letting them continue to bully you is not the right approach (but you already know that!).
Write Everything Down
If you’ve been bullied, write down everything that you can about the event. Don’t forget the basics, like what day the event occurred, where it occurred, who was around and what was said. Please be truthful and objective (black and white). Do not embellish or get emotional. Stick to the facts as best as you can remember them. Keep in mind that your bully’s supervisor will need this information in order to be able to see a pattern if possible.
If the bully is harassing you via email, text messaging, fax, audit reports, time sheets, memos or by good old snail mail, then smile. The work has been done for you. Collect as many of these as you can before you go up the ladder. You can report to your boss, your bully’s boss, Human Resources, your union rep, or whoever you think will be able to best help you immediately..
Don’t Be Alone
Your bully will deny any and all of the accusations brought against him or her. Expect that. Make it much harder for the bully by never being alone in a room with her. Make sure that someone else is always within earshot that can back you up. A bully is more likely to harass their victims when the victim is alone than even when just one other bystander is nearby.
If you can’t find a human witness, then carry a mechanical witness with you in the form of a cell phone camera or a small tape recorder. Do a test run with your cell phone inside of a jacket pocket or lying on a table to hear how well voices record. Many cell phones have excellent audio. Carrying a tape recorder is much easier to do in the winter than in the summer, unless your blazer has an inside pocket.
This step is hard to do. You will constantly think up things you can say or do to get back at your bully. Just think them – don’t actually do them. It’s never okay to act on these revenge fantasies, even if the bully really REALLY deserves it. They can easily backfire and cost you your job.
Whenever you do interact with your bully, keep a calm and even tone of voice. Don’t yell and don’t swear that you’ll get even. Don’t even bother to tell them you are documenting all of this. Pretend that you are being watched by the boss. If the bully tries to back you in a corner, move as quickly as possible to anyplace that would have other employees around.
Relax and Talk to Friends
You should not have to spend your off hours worrying about getting bullied again. Since this is a problem that ís bothering you, you will need to let off some steam. Talk to your friends and loved ones. They may have tips for you. They may also have been in a similar situation and can sympathize. Better to speak to friends that are not friends at work though.
Bullies try to make their victims feel as if they deserve to be bullied. Spending time with people who value you can not only get you to relax, but can wreck the bully’s plans.